Blibber Blabber

No rhyme, no reason

 

It was Album Fever last night.  While we were in Chattanooga in the motel room, Mr. Calm and I watched a bit of an older Stevie Nicks concert.  She was doing a very restrained version of "Rhiannon", and it reminded me of one of my very favorite albums when I was a teenager: the Fleetwood Mac live album; a double album that I damn near almost wore out.

Last night, I finally remembered to look and see if I still had it.  Through almost all the moves, my albums have come with me.  First I put on a Rush album on the turntable and put the needle on "Limelight", and while that spun, I looked and looked and... Wow!  I still have that album!  It was an iffy thing: the sleeve had old water damage, and I wasn't sure if I'd given it up or not.

I played "Fireflies" and "Rhiannon", two SN songs.  I can't believe I still remember all the words to "Fireflies" after twenty years, but I was always good with lyrics.  And if you've never heard the live version of "Rhiannon", you're missing out on something great.

Then I sat down to cut out my artwork and played three songs from "Mirage", the album with the song "Hold Me", but didn't play that one.  I don't really like the hits from that one anymore.  I sang along with SN and Lindsey Buckingham, making sure my voice didn't carry through to Mr. Calm's office, heh.  I used to sing well, but I don't think I have more than an octave range anymore.

Lastly, I dragged out "Purple Rain".  My mom took me to see this movie when I was thirteen or fourteen.   Almost all the songs on this album are great, but I only played two: "Baby I'm a Star" and "Purple Rain".  I think the last half of "Purple Rain"-- the guitar solo-- is incredibly moving.  Prince may have not been "relevant" in years, but at least he can say he wrote some damn good songs once upon a time.

I wish I had a turntable in here.

***

YD and I watched "Penelope" last night: a modern fairy tale.  A family was cursed, and Penelope was born with a pig nose.  The only thing that would reverse the curse would be if "one of her own" loved her for who she was.  With a pig nose, you realize how beautiful Christina Ricci's eyes are.  James McAvoy does a really good general American accent.  I didn't think Reese Witherspoon, one of the producers, needed to be in the movie at all.  But otherwise, I really enjoyed it: the narration, the set and costume design-- oh! Peter Dinklage was in it, too!-- and most of all, Ricci and McAvoy's characters.

posted by: athenawj at 06:44 | link | comments (2) |
music, movies

Salem is wearing three bells on a collar now.  He's had a collar plenty of times before, but always manages to lose them.  I wish he was still little, when he'd bring his lost collars home to us.

The reason is he got ahold of another bunny.  Mr. Calm found it right behind my cottage garden, half-dead.  I begged him to leave it there with Salem, so Salem could finish what he'd started.  There's no way in hell I would have prolonged that poor rabbit's life by taking it in and shuttling it to the sanctuary, where it would have been put to sleep anyway.

So, Salem has three bells on a red collar, and Ollie, though no Great Hunter, has a purple collar with one bell.  We'll see how long they last before they too are lost to the wind.

***

I am planning on starting another strange portrait today.  I like doing weird portraits for my art-- A Girl and Her Octopus, Family Portrait (complete with Tomato Baby), etc.  This time it's going to be a girl with sash, and a sheep with a blue ribbon, standing before a fair banner.  I was really inspired by these dolls (click! it's a link) that we saw when we went to Bell Buckle; their faces, especially the middle one, are just so striking, so I may give her my own twist.

I will post pix when I'm done.  It's a four-piece deal, so it'll take a LITTLE time. ;)

Here's to what I hope will be a quiet week.

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art , animals

Yesterday morning: sitting in bed, taking a sip of coffee, thinking, "Yes, this IS the worst cup of coffee I've ever had in my life".

Ah, motel coffee.

We got back around four yesterday from TTU's orientation.  Yes, dreadfully boring at times, and other times we (and other parents) wondered what the hell we were doing there, but overall, I was impressed with the time and effort the university took to orient the parents and students.  Every single person we talked to was very nice and polite (even if some of them directed us to the wrong places), and I think OD is really revved up now that she has questions answered.  We still have a few things to do, like get her vaccination record signed and stamped, and wait on the university to fix their computer system so she's in the International Hall instead of the Business Major hall, but those (hopefully) can be wrapped up soon.

And it's a beautiful campus, up on the Cumberland Plateau.  The weather was wonderful while we were there-- it rained, but that doesn't bother me; the temperature was cooler.  It's in a small town, and we talked to a shopkeeper (Mr. Calm and I skipped a couple of the parent sessions to explore the town a bit) who told us some good places to eat, and a bit of lore about the town.  I laughingly told her that all I knew about the town was what I'd seen on the show City Confidential a couple of weeks ago.

She was bringing me cream for the cup of coffee I'd bought, and stopped midway.  "It wasn't about 'Low-Tax Looper, was it?"

Ha.  Yes, it was.  A guy in the late nineties legally changed his name to Byron "Low-Tax" Looper (complete with punctuation) to become the town property assessor, then ended up killing his opponent when he tried to run for state senate.  Cuckoo.

Anyway.  A lovely town.  OD is going back in a week or so to see about getting a part-time job on campus; and we got her meal plan all settled.  For this particular session, she was the only kid registering for a foreign language degree.  When we went up to the office in the Foreign Languages building, we turned the corner and found a sign with OD's name on it, welcoming her to the program and telling her they were glad she was there.  It gave us all warm and fuzzy feeling.  She ended up getting all the classes she was trying for.  Sixteen hours this semester.  She successfully fended off Mr. Calm's repeated attempts* to steer her toward taking the courses for ESL licensure, even though that's not what she needs at all to be a teaching assistant in France, and frankly, I'm proud of her.  Too many times I've been under pressure like that, and caved.  Four years-- she should go down the path SHE wants to.

(Not mad at Mr. Calm for that-- more amused and a little exasperated for not sitting down with OD beforehand and talking to her about her plans.)

So, we're home, and I'm going to try to keep up the evenness I'm striving for, and probably avoid a certain teenager who is in the last throes of "YOU are a MORON and I am ALL-KNOWING and ALL-SEEING", and go get my artwork from the gallery, come home, and try to figure out where the hell to put it.  It's really cool to have tons of artwork for your house, but at the same time, it's hell rearranging stuff.

Peace out, folks.

posted by: athenawj at 08:14 | link | comments (1) |
kids, studies, memories

Yet again, I've been thinking about starting up another book.  Why do I put myself through this hell?  Actually, I'm not, because I'm not letting myself think about it for more than a few fleeting moments at a time (easy when you have a million other things to think about), but I had a little flash of inspiration yesterday (while I was driving, I think-- those are pretty memorable.  Ever see a woman in a plum PT Cruiser with her mouth hanging open and her eyes wide?  That's me, getting Hit By Inspiration).

My problem with this particular story (that I've started five times so far) has been backstory.  I absolutely felt it needed it.  Why was this woman dead set on finding and killing a man who brutally attacked her twenty years earlier?  Who was her brother, "The Walker"?  How exactly was the Burnie reservation agent different from the others in the Republic?  Every time I started a new novel, I'd spend countless hours, days setting everything up; making sure all those details were in there, and yet when I was done, the ideas, the action, would fizzle out.  And I'd be left with eighty, ninety, one hundred pages-- too much lost time.

Yesterday, the inspiration was: fuck the backstory.

I know that my most successful short stories have begun in the midst of the action.  Whatever back details that needed to be included were included later in the story.  I know from my own experiences as an editor, and from an editor who's published me twice, that you need to be grabbed by the neck and throttled right away, or the story's most likely going to be rejected.  And by action, I don't mean bingbangBOOM!, but "It was a dark and stormy night" sure as hell hasn't cut it for years.  And neither was what I was writing.

It wasn't flat and rambling, mind you.  Two of the drafts started out in a reservation agent's office, with two agents and a Burnie with ESP-- a crazy woman who took to pulling down her top from time to time.  She was entertaining to read and write, but then it lapsed into the agent's life, and his last day on the reservation.  Other drafts began with the woman seeking revenge, who didn't know it yet, and her sad, despondent life.  It made me sad, despondent... and didn't make for good reading.

Lately, I've been wanting to include a Housewife Hubby.  Housewife Hubbies stay at home, dress in shimmery gauze, and are a little on the stereotypical gay side.  They are the male equivalent of TV housewives of the '50s.  They take care of things that a progressive woman of the Republic has no time or desire for.  I figure he'd be a hoot to write, since I'd make him flamboyant, a bit over-the-top.

I've also wanted to work a Canary into my book.  Though I don't think anyone who reads this blog knows of Canaries, one was prominently featured in my story, "Follow the Canary".  They are children with no faces, with mouths in their stomachs, and they are used to find things.  In essence, they're slaves that blindly follow their masters' wishes.

The last thing is the decision not to write most of the book from the woman's point of view.  I think the story would be better served by not knowing right away what her intentions are.  She'd have to be a mystery.

Every time I've stepped into this world I've created and gotten something published, it's been met with success.  People really like it.  So, it's a no-brainer to return to it, though not for possible success: I really enjoy it, too.  I really want to finish a book about it.

So, fuck the backstory.  I know now how I want it to start-- with a small bingbangBOOM!  Luckily, a novel allows you to wait a little on the things that make a person tick, that shaped their lives, and after the bbB!, I'll have time for that.

I just hope it doesn't slow me down again.

***

Last night, as I was driving home from dropping YD's friend off, a black cat skittered across the road (I didn't hit it).  I started half-laughing, saying, "Oh, that's all I need!  That's just perfect!"  I realize that my black cat Salem probably crosses my path at least once a day, but it was so blatant that it struck me.

I wanted to say thanks for all the nice comments here the past couple of weeks.  I have this place to vent, since I can't talk about some things to anyone else, and I really appreciate the sympathy and kind words.  I know there are many good things in my life, but it seems that the bad are really weighing me down, and I'm struggling to find those blue patches in the sky.  A friend writes "Life is good" at the end of each of her posts, and I want to feel some peace and evenness again.

Peace and evenness.

posted by: athenawj at 07:55 | link | comments (2) |
writing, thanks

You know, I was told yet again the other day, in an exasperated fashion, that I overthink things.  The funny thing is (although I didn't find it funny, really) is that whenever I'm told that, I've honestly not done that.  However, when I commented about it later, I said, "Well, somebody fucking has to sometimes!"

I can't get into specifics, but the truth is, we had a medical emergency here last week, and the last few days have been filled with medications (and a bad reaction), more medications, research, tears, discussions, and there is still another doctor's visit tomorrow.  Though things will get easier over time, now we have a long lifetime of medicine, and dietary considerations (though vitamins could take that role, I prefer to go the old-fashioned route), but hopefully, I Pray, no tears from now on.

So, we need a little strength.  Sorry I have to be vague here in my own blog, but you know the drill.  Some things you just can't lay all out here on the In-Tra-Net.  But that's where my renewed vigorous Vacation Yearning came from.  Not that I totally feel like running away every time something bad happens, but sometimes dreaming about escapism is easier than dealing with what's in front of you.  Though I deal.  Lordy, I do, in my own neurotic fashion.

And now, this morning, we have another medical deal: OD's meningitis vaccination.  I won't feel comfortable with her going to college without it, and neither does she.  Thank goodness for shots!

I think I may just pray-- not about the vaccination, but about the other thing.  A revelation: I rarely pray directly to God for guidance.  I am comfortable and happy with my belief in God (and it took a long time to get that way), but I don't believe in outright asking for God's intervening hand.  I've had friends during my life-- haven't we all?-- who would pray for every little thing-- ask God to do it for them, and it contradicted my belief that we need to figure it out for ourselves.  God doesn't generally handle every little problem for people that He gave free will to.  When we had "prayer time" (I forget what it was actually called, but let's call it that for the moment) at my old church, I would discuss with myself and God what I needed to better in my life, and work out what *I* needed to do.  I found it very relaxing and cathartic-- perhaps I should get back to that.

But I also believe in miracles-- believe in them or not, I've experienced one that I believe to be true in my life.  This won't be solved by a miracle, but I will pray for... easier times and understanding, and... well, shit.  A little more love at times.

Peace out, folks.  Here's hoping this week's better than the last.

posted by: athenawj at 06:05 | link | comments (2) |

Yes, yes, yes-- things went to hell in a handbasket again, but with research, talking and time, I feel better.  Such are things here on this Drive.  Instead of despairing about possibly not getting our vacation, I think we need to do everything we can to achieve it, because we desperately need a week away.

So, yes, I'm going away.  Gottagottagotta.  And if not, I might camp out in the backyard.

I sent pix of my tomato art to M. at the gallery, and she wrote back almost immediately, telling me how much she loves it.    Actually, she said if I was there she'd kiss me, heh.  She invited me to make more pieces if I was inspired, but so much shit was flying around here, I really couldn't concentrate.  I drop what I've got off tomorrow.

I am going to beg OD to take more pictures in the yard this evening or tomorrow evening.  I want to do color versions of this picture for my "color portrait" fair entry: Picture in a Picture.  That way, I can have both my kiddos' pictures in the fair.

Of course, YD has already told me that she doesn't want her picture up on the wall, but hey, do I care?  Nope.  Mom's prerogative.

Heh heh.

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OD arrived home about eleven on Tuesday night.  I've spent a lot of time over the last couple of days listening to her about her trip to Japan.  What an adventure!  I remember being eighteen (or seventeen, actually-- I have a September birthday) and experiencing the highs of freedom-- I can't imagine experiencing it on the other side of the world, but how cool.

*The biggest thing I can think of is that OD likes Disney almost as much as her old mom.  Her favorite character is Max, Goofy's son.  In all the trips we've been to WDW, she's never met him.  But she met him at Tokyo Disneyland, got his picture, and he kissed her hand.  I told her she had to go around the world just to meet Max, heh.

*She doesn't particularly care for sushi seaweed.

*I thought she was brave, doing all that karaoking, when I could never even get her to play her clarinet for me and her dad.  Turns out that there are karaoke clubs, and you reserve a room, and it's just you and your party in the room.

*With the exception of Chinatown, it was very clean everywhere.

*She kept bonking her head on the overhead rail on the trains.  Being 5'9", I imagine she's taller than most others around her.

*There were two earthquakes while she was there.  She was in one that registered a 1, and the other was in the northern part of the country.

*Her host family was absolutely wonderful.  They were incredibly accommodating, and took her to a lot of places, wouldn't let her spend her money, etc.  Her friend's mom cried when she left. 

*There are a ton of other things, but being still bleary-eyed, I can't remember them.  If you want to see some pictures from her trip, you can see them on her flickr pages: OD's flickr

Yesterday we went dorm shopping.  I'd never before paid attention to "college stuff" being sold around back to school time.  Thank goodness we were able to get 95% of it done in one store.  Next up is orientation, then "Move In Day" on August 21.  Little over a month.  Jeez.

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Reading a friend's blog this morning reminded me of my father-in-law.  He is a sweet man, a very intelligent man, and we've passed the parts of his life that he'd probably like to forget; all the girls, me and Mr. Calm know is the retired physics teacher, a very loving, devoted husband, and "Grandpa".  I don't know what happened, and won't ask him, but when he and his first wife divorced, the children, all grown, took her side and refused to have contact with him.  Now, one of his children has a semi-relationship with him, but the others still will not see him.  And I don't think that any of them saw him when he had a terrible car accident, or inquired about him when he went through chemo.

He has three 'sons' now, though: Mr. Calm and his brothers.  Whatever happened when C. was younger, they can't hold it against him.  Personally, I think he's the best of the "dads" they've had (this is L.'s fourth marriage.  And I'm discounting Mr. Calm and his older brother's real father, because he died when they were young, and I didn't know him.  Perhaps he would have been the best.).  And four grandkids that love him dearly.

This does remind me of what's going on with my parents.  My mom called me the other night to give me an update, and actually asked me if that "was okay".  I told her what I'd said before: this is HER life, and she needs to make the decisions about it (I think she got a little irritated when my voice rose-- not out of anger-- but hey Mom, where'd I get that from? ;)).  I can't tell her they're right or wrong.  But I made sure to tell her that I didn't hate my dad.  I don't like what he did, but I'm not turning against him.  And thankfully, my mom doesn't want us to hate him.  I can't imagine going through the rest of my life having to pick one over the other, and I'm glad I'm not being asked to.

Perhaps that's what it boils down to with C.,  his ex-wife and their children: "Pick him or pick me".  And that's terribly unfair to everyone.

posted by: athenawj at 07:54 | link | comments (2) |

Mr. Calm is in the Atlanta airport now, having waited for hours.  I hope he doesn't have to wait much longer.  We all forgot about OD having to come through Customs.  I hope there's no problem with all the stuff she's got in her carry-on.  Some of those are my presents!! ;)

So, yes, OD will be back home tonight.  And then next Thursday and Friday we'll be at orientation.  I wonder what wonderful things we'll get to do while she's registering and talking with advisors (snerk).  What, is my boredom with all the other orientations I've been to showing? ;)

Both Mr. Calm and I, hundreds of miles away from each other, slept horribly last night.  I told him I guess I can't live without his snores.  Heh.

I watched Gone, Baby Gone last night.  Highly recommended, though I found Amy Ryan completely unbelievable as the character, and don't understand where those nominations came from.  I had to turn on the captioning because, even after nine years up there, I couldn't understand some of the Boston accents.  Ugh.  After growing up in the lower North and very-very-South, Northern accents have always grated on my nerves.  So, while I'm watching GBG, it occasionally reminds me of how I would correct the girls whenever they spoke with a MA accent; and how even now, YD tells me that she wishes I hadn't done that.

I don't particularly care, heh.  I wanted them to talk plainly. 

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movies, kids, memories

Today was better than yesterday.  Mr. Calm helped with a lot of reassuring hugs and words.  I cannot say that the messes in my life are entirely in my head, but I can admit that I am wholly able to work myself into an unwarranted tizzy over them.

The violin/viola place in town is a gorgeous place-- an old Victorian on Music Row filled with instruments, practice rooms, and work rooms.  We were given the run of the two showrooms, a tuner, table and fine bow, and YD was even allowed to try out the violas in the safe (not that we can plunk down $15,000 for a viola- whew!!).  She fell in love with one of the professional ones, one that she can use well into her career, and while I don't like the distressing on it (it's a distinction of the brand), it sounds rich and deep and gorgeous.

It'll take a while to pay off, but as corny as it sounds, the smile plastered onto her face after finding out she could have it was worth it.  She is totally in love with it.

(By the way, funnyshoes, do you recognize the pictures hanging on the wall just above her head? )

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music, kids, memories

A few tears borne out of frustration this morning.  Yes, I'm still a little upset about being rejected for the drawing exhibit-- doubting myself again, wishing I'd worked up to my true potential, looking at other artists' work and feeling I'm not good enough, blah blah blah.  Decorating papier mache boxes with my drawings and odds and ends and then wondering, "Why the hell am I bothering?"

Got a kid going to college.  Even with two loans, we still have to foot part of the bill, and I worry it's not enough.  I worry ahead of time about YD's college bill on top of that.

YD brought her viola into the living room and showed us two loooong cracks through the body.  She said it was in her case the whole time.  Yarite.  Nevertheless, although we'd given ourselves nine months to save for a down deposit for an advanced, GOOD viola, now we have to get on the ball, worry about financing, find one she likes, blah blah blah.  I'm waking her ass up early so we can go to the local viola/violin shop and talk... viola.

I am pissed that the university seems to be in collusion with an outside company, and it seems that standard sheets you cannot buy anywhere will not fit the dorm beds-- they have to be specially ordered.  I can't just say, "Fuck that".

I was counting down the months til our October vacation.  Three months away-- within smelling reach!  And now I'm not sure we can go.  There's just too much going on.  Add onto that how behind Mr. Calm is, and I know that I won't "see" my husband for weeks afterward while he catches up.  Happens every time; this time won't be different.

Add to that how he has developed some sort of weird fear/anxiety about crowds and open spaces.  Many times we've had to leave a restaurant or mall early because he can't handle it.  And he won't do anything to alleviate it, either.  It's made life harder.  He was "sick" almost our entire last vacation.

And I am hating more and more living here.

I am a mess today.

posted by: athenawj at 08:58 | link | comments (2) |

My Blue Baby

Hrm, isn't blue baby something else?...

I should preface this by saying that I never do anything to my soil but till it and occasionally add topsoil, and fertilizer when I remember (which isn't much).  I have no idea what type of soil I have, other than there's damn hard clay in the sunny spots. 

Three years ago I planted a bare root hydrangea.  I did not add pennies to my soil or anything else-- I simply hoped and hoped and hoped that I would have a blue hydrangea.  Three years I had to wait to find out what my soil would give me.

Look what I got this year!!!

This is the second bloom (the first was waaaay at the bottom), and it's not finished changing yet.  So beautiful!!!

And when we move, this lovely's coming with ME.

posted by: athenawj at 09:45 | link | comments |
gardening, memories

It was a fucking emotional roller coaster yesterday.  I feel better today-- I actually thought that when I got up-- but I'll sell yesterday's memories to anyone for a penny.  Not to get into particulars, but two evenings ago, my mom called me and middle sister V. and poured out the latest set of problems, which were worse than they've been in a long time.  Not that we weren't sympathetic, but in addition to the support, we also both ended up yelling a little, trying to get through to her.  Neither of us feel bad about it.

So, V. and I talked yesterday afternoon, and it seemed we shared a brain about everything we felt.  It felt good to talk to someone who completely understood.  Later, I called my mom, who sounded like a zombie, and said she'd rethought things, and was going back on her original intentions. 

It was my turn to be numb.  When I called V., she was crying and pissed, and ready to wash her hands of the whole thing.  And I agree.  As V. said, "We're grownups-- we have our own problems!  We can't take on hers, too!"  And that's what's bugged me for awhile.  Every time there's a problem, we get to hear about it. It's been that way our entire lives.  But it leaves me sick and worried, and I spend a day or two or more distracted, and unable to focus on things in my own life when they really need focussing on. 

Mr. Calm, in his calm way, got mad at my mom for this.  He said I didn't need to know about some things in my parents' lives.  And he's right.  We may be grownups, but we're also still their children.  We don't need to hear about every single little problem, and certainly not some of the big ones.  Goodness, I don't tell my mom half of what goes on around here!  I don't need the "advice", for one thing.  I don't want to be judged, nor my children or husband.  And I know I have to figure things out myself.

I realize some of this might sound callous. But it really is a fine line you sometimes have to walk, I'm seeing.  I can listen til the cows come home, but at the same time, I don't know how we can be expected to keep hearing about things like this.  Like I said, it's hard to go on with your own life when you're being consumed with worry.

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It's one of those days where I don't want to get out of the chair.  Granted, I've already been up since six, gone on my walk, and planted the two coneflowers (that I found for a baaaaaaaar-gain!) in my ever-rambling garden, but I'm back here and I don't want to get up.  I have to, though.  YD stepped on her upper retainer, and today we have to go in to pick it up.  I'm totally not surprised that I take much better care of my retainers than she does hers, although she said she'd almost cried when she stepped on it, and almost attempted to glue it back together.  Heh.  That would've been weird.

It felt like I broke my arm just after I woke up this morning.  Coming out of the bathroom, I banged my arm just below my elbow on our dresser.  I must have been seriously out of it.  Ever wanted to scream, but someone was sleeping, so you're only able to let out a silent howl?  That was me, doubled over, eyes squeezed shut, holding my arm, then finally letting it dangle limply.  I wake up with pain in my arms from my carpal tunnel and tendonitis anyway, so this was double the torture.  The spot still hurts, too.

News from Japan: OD is still having fun.  There was an earthquake yesterday-- a 1-- that her friend felt but she didn't.  I seriously hope there's not a bigger one while she's there.  She nearly got yanked off a crowded train while everyone was getting off.  Today--  yesterday? tomorrow?-- she's going to spend the day and night at a hotel that has a bunch of different hot tubs-- saunas?-- like wine, tea, etc.  And soon she's going to Disney.

My cottage garden is almost complete.  I've left two patches where I can plant my zinnias and seeds that I save, like cosmos and some purple things I haven't identified yet, but I have two more small spots to fill ijn and I'm done.  Now I wish it was bigger, but the clay in our yard is a bitch to dig-- only after six years did the cottage garden soil become soft enough to just dig up with my fingers.  I love it.  Wish I could have an entire cottage garden for a yard, but I am NOT digging up an acre and a half of clay.  Especially a rented yard.

I continue to look forward to our vacation in October.  God, I hope we can go.  It seems like every year is too stressful, too full of events I'd rather not go through.  I want a good year.

I'm going to start helping Mr. Calm with his work.  LIttle things, but things that add up that take away his time to actually work on projects, like going to the bank and post office for him, learning how to mail out cds to reviewers and magazines, sending out bills, answering the phone, etc.  The older he gets, the more I worry he's going to work himself into a heart attack. 

And I realized this morning we've been together over nineteen years.  It doesn't seem that long.  Other times, it sure as hell does.

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pain, gardening, family, kids, summer, memories, marriage, vacation, mrcalm

My mom visited on Friday and Saturday: pretty much a twenty-four-hour visit.  My aunt and uncle decided they wanted to get out of town, and picked Nashville to visit, so she tagged along with them on their invite.  It was a really nice visit: we went to breakfast (and she gave me an irritated look when I said I'd pay: "Nobody's letting me spend my money"), out to Lowe's, Hobby Lobby... you know, mom and daughter stuff, heh.  Wish it could've been longer, but we were happy to have them.

I've finalized my entries for the fair: one art entry, six photography entries, and seventeen (uh-huh) bakery entries.  When I was reading off what I was entering, my aunt's jaw progressively dropped, and my mom started laughing and said something like, "Good God!"  But you know, it's not as big a deal as people might think.  I know by now how to manage my time, I'm doing the decorated stuff weeks ahead of time, and I can luckily freeze cakes and cookie dough.

I also finished my tomato art:

Family Portrait:

Momma Loves 'Maters:

And I tell you, I am SOOOOO happy with them!!!

posted by: athenawj at 19:17 | link | comments (1) |
art , family, memories, state fair

I got my hair cut the other day.  I'd planned on letting the layers grow out, but I didn't like it, so I went in for a chop.  It's still long-- about an inch or so below my shoulders-- but it has lots of layers now, and lots of curls that I don't have to play with to make.

Right now, though, I look like Pinky Tuscadero.  Fluffing it will help me out of that, I imagine.

See, this curly hair thing is still fun and surprisingly still newish for me.  I grew up with thin, straight hair-- the only one in the family who had straight hair.  After I had kids, my hair changed.  I didn't know about the curly thing, though.  My hair was very short when I was pregnant with YD, and a year after she was born, I got a perm.  For two years, I kept waiting and waiting for that damn thing to grow out.  When will the perm grow out???  I finally found that "huh, I have curly hair now".  Actually, it's a combo of frizz, waves and Nelly-curls, but with styling I can make it nice.

The wonders of hormones and the body.  Will they ever cease (puh).

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I'm fairly sure that I didn't get into the drawing exhibit, since the notification day is two days passed.  I knew it.  I went with my heart, instead of the wow factor.  The good thing is that I have three artworks completed for the Christmas season at the gallery.  See, I found a silver lining. :P

Now I need to get my butt on the ball and take pictures of my stuff for a "Blue" show in KY.  Maybe my stuff will be more earth-shattering for them.

posted by: athenawj at 07:09 | link | comments (2) |
art , hair